barmar, on 2020-July-08, 20:19, said:
The only health-related class I remember was sometime in 5th or 6th grade they had an evening assembly where they told us about how our bodies would be changing during puberty. I'm pretty sure they had separate sessions for boys and girls, and I recall my father going with me. I assume it must have been optional, as I'm sure many parents would have preferred to deal with it (or not) at home. I'm pretty sure it was the first time I'd heard the word "masturbation".
My older daughter was in 8th grade in the early 70s. At some teacher/parent discussion I learned that they would be discussing sexual matters in class. I had no problem with factual discussion, but I expressed wariness about any plans for instruction about what they should and shouldn't do. I was assured that would not be part of the teaching.
Giving advice puts the teacher in an almost impossible position, or so I think. At one extreme I recall a push for sexual encouragement, summarized (probably jokingly) as "Sex before eight, before it's too late" and at the other extreme there is the expectation of virgin brides. maybe even virgin bridegrooms. As a senior in high school, 1955-56, I took psychology. In 1950s St. Paul sexual matters were close to forbidden in high school courses, but the teacher did advise "No matter how modern a young woman might believe she is, she cannot really be happy about having a sexual relationship outside of marriage". Ok, it's a bit simplistic, but it could be understood as "It's serious stuff, don't approach it frivolously". This is another teacher I liked a great deal. To see just how much sex was avoided even in a psychology class, he suggested that for a term paper I research and write about Freud. I said "Who is Freud?". The name had not come up in our lessons.
In my introductory post on this thread I said "It might be useful to recall our own younger years, the good and the bad, in thinking of what might work." When I was 12 or so I checked out a book from the school library called Mythology that included a story about a bathing goddess Diana. I just looked it up on the wik and although I had mis-remembered some of the details, I had the general idea right:
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The myth of Diana and Actaeon can be found in Ovid's Metamorphoses. The tale recounts the unfortunate fate of a young hunter named Actaeon, who was a grandson of Cadmus, and his encounter with chaste Artemis, known to the Romans as Diana, goddess of the hunt. The latter is nude and enjoying a bath in a spring with help from her escort of nymphs when the mortal man unwittingly stumbles upon the scene. The nymphs scream in surprise and attempt to cover Diana, who, in a fit of embarrassed fury, splashes water upon Actaeon. He is transformed into a deer with a dappled hide and long antlers, robbed of his ability to speak, and thereafter promptly flees in fear. It is not long, however, before his own hounds track him down and kill him, failing to recognize their master.[1]
I was an easily frightened child and this really upset me.
Anyway, I sometimes think educational experts totally forget their own childhoods as they give advice. In this time where we have to cope with severe additional problems, care is needed. Learning just how the world works is not easy.